Perineum: per”i-ne’um the region of the body extending from the anus to the scrotum in males, and from the anus to the vulva in females.

Yep, we have perineums too, ladies. Although it is fun to have our rubbed, my interest is in the males’. Their has many a nick-name such as taint (from “it ain’t quite my balls; it ain’t quite my ass”), ABC (ass-to-balls-connection), and my favorite: the fleshy fun bridge.

See the fleshy fun bridge is region many nerves cross to get to their more erogenous regions (the bum, the balls, the penis) making it very sensitive. Rubbing this happy area makes him cum even harder, and licking it leads to him nailing you harder.

Oh, and a last word about our perineums. If you plan to have children the old-fashioned way, don’t get too attached. That is the region that has to be sewn back up when the baby’s out.

1) Perineum

2) Not the perineum

3) See #2

4) Talk about bare balls

5) See #3

So there are a bunch of tricks to this, but the biggest problem is subtlety. In my experience, a good gentle way to prolong love-making is the gentle tug on the scrotum. Yep, the best way may be to bug him in the sac.

Yet you never really want to bug your lover while having sex. The trick is to play with his balls, often. That way if you reach down and give a gentle tug downward after some massage, he’ll think nothing of it. After some massage is the key to making it appear just another motion in your mutual lotion making. That combined with lots of ball play not aimed at slowing him down works wonders. He’ll just think you have a fetish for his nuts, which won’t bother him one bit.

So I was listening to Loveline the other week (man do I miss Adam Corolla) and their guest was the big one: Ron Jeremy. He had fascinating insights on in-and-out, but I found his schpiel on first time anal sex the most interesting. He claims many producers/directors phoned him up for porn starlets first anal scenes. It went something like this:

1) The lady should have her ass in the air. Other than the obvious reasoning, this position also allows gravity to be on the side of anal sex.
2) The gentleman should be giving it to her doggy style, while she jiggles her joy spot with a vibrator.
3) The gentleman should place two fingers in her behind (well lubed of course) slowly, gently. As this is about the width of a penis this action shall stretch the anus appropriately.
4) Then, with ass still in the air, he should move into the back-door (slowly, gently) while she continues with the vibrator.
As the technique is mastered, almost any position can be achieved with anal. It is a much better technique than biting a pillow till your jaw hurts and much more enjoyable.

So when I sat to write this Lipped Tip I found myself wanting to sing “Love Shaft! Baby, Love Shaft!” My little song would go to the tune of “Love Shack.”

The concept is basic: love his shaft.

Though the shaft of the penis is not the most sensitive of his genitalia (that pointy part at the top is) ignoring it is ignoring its turn-on potential.

Here are a few pointers:
1) Use a firm, but not restrictive grip
2) Don’t just go up and down, swivel your wrist a bit
3) Start out with his head in your hand, work down past it and back up to it
4) Try rolling it gently between both hands, up and down
5) Any of these options orgasmic possibilities are increased endlessly by moving your lips on the top of his penis at the same time
Have Fun!