So we’re all looking for ways to keep the relationship more than alive. We all want it alive and humping. So how do we keep the humps alive and original?
There’s always the old fall-back of changing the sex location. (Hey baby, how about we “dine” in the living room?) There are always guides to new erotic positions. (Hey baby, how about we take up yoga?) But nothing really beats mixing it up.
That is why I’d recommend “52 Weeks of Naughty Nights,” a grab bag of ways to mix it up. Some of the ideas are cliché (“dining” on the coffee table in the living room rather than the couch) but others are a bit more naughty. Curious? Pick it up and see what you grab in this bag . . .
Here’s an article about a poor lady who has never had an orgasm, despite her numerous partners. Its an interesting little read, and it definitely sounds like this lady needs to learn to express herself to her partners better. Here’s a clip of the response:
It’s possible their technique is at fault - men can be remarkably ignorant on how to please a woman in bed - but as all of your partners have failed to help you reach orgasm, it seems it could be more your problem than theirs.
Here’s a movie that might help her, and her boyfriend, out.
Guys can be a little sensitive about performance. Because of this us ladies must be gentle in our directions to make motions in our oceans. Sometimes we moan like we’re awash in an orgasmic tidal wave in response to a titilating ripple just to keep them encouraged. Sometimes we reach around and take the helm and steer.
Toys definitely need a gentle hand. Male lovers can view them as competition. The best way to steer clear of such nonsense is to make him see that they can be pleasurable for both of you.
Start him off with a small to medium sized vibrator, and gently run it up and down his shaft so he feels some waves of his own. If you’re feeling really naughty (or goofy) use the Jesse Jane’s Verbal Vibration pictured below. It is hard for a man to feel like he’s playing second fiddle while listening to his woman moan and Jesse Jane exclaim, “Fuck me!”
What more introduction is needed?
According to this article many women don’t know how to masturbate. It the goes on to reflect on the “corrections” that were once used on women caught masturbating. Disturbing at best.
So I thought I’d go over some technique, but am having a hard time not typing JUST DIDDLE IN THE MIDDLE.
Seriously, just take some time to figure it out. The easiest manual, unassisted (without a toy) way is to use your hand to stimulate your clitoris. Try different paces, rotations, taps, gentle to hard pressure etc.
It will help you know what you like when you’re with a lover. It also helps one relax during an orgasm and b more present during the lovemaking, rather than just getting washed away by the feeling.
There is also a plethora of reading, video material out there on the subject should you need more info.
Perineum: per”i-ne’um the region of the body extending from the anus to the scrotum in males, and from the anus to the vulva in females.
Yep, we have perineums too, ladies. Although it is fun to have our rubbed, my interest is in the males’. Their has many a nick-name such as taint (from “it ain’t quite my balls; it ain’t quite my ass”), ABC (ass-to-balls-connection), and my favorite: the fleshy fun bridge.
See the fleshy fun bridge is region many nerves cross to get to their more erogenous regions (the bum, the balls, the penis) making it very sensitive. Rubbing this happy area makes him cum even harder, and licking it leads to him nailing you harder.
Oh, and a last word about our perineums. If you plan to have children the old-fashioned way, don’t get too attached. That is the region that has to be sewn back up when the baby’s out.
1) Perineum
2) Not the perineum
3) See #2
4) Talk about bare balls
5) See #3
So there are a bunch of tricks to this, but the biggest problem is subtlety. In my experience, a good gentle way to prolong love-making is the gentle tug on the scrotum. Yep, the best way may be to bug him in the sac.
Yet you never really want to bug your lover while having sex. The trick is to play with his balls, often. That way if you reach down and give a gentle tug downward after some massage, he’ll think nothing of it. After some massage is the key to making it appear just another motion in your mutual lotion making. That combined with lots of ball play not aimed at slowing him down works wonders. He’ll just think you have a fetish for his nuts, which won’t bother him one bit.
So I was listening to Loveline the other week (man do I miss Adam Corolla) and their guest was the big one: Ron Jeremy. He had fascinating insights on in-and-out, but I found his schpiel on first time anal sex the most interesting. He claims many producers/directors phoned him up for porn starlets first anal scenes. It went something like this:
1) The lady should have her ass in the air. Other than the obvious reasoning, this position also allows gravity to be on the side of anal sex.
2) The gentleman should be giving it to her doggy style, while she jiggles her joy spot with a vibrator.
3) The gentleman should place two fingers in her behind (well lubed of course) slowly, gently. As this is about the width of a penis this action shall stretch the anus appropriately.
4) Then, with ass still in the air, he should move into the back-door (slowly, gently) while she continues with the vibrator.
As the technique is mastered, almost any position can be achieved with anal. It is a much better technique than biting a pillow till your jaw hurts and much more enjoyable.
